Hurtful Words

“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

There is an old saying “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” As a child, this was usually a retort, when someone was saying mean things. However, the statement is far from being true.

Words are extremely powerful. Words can be used to communicate effectively, or to elicit harmful damage, that will linger for years. Words are weapons. Thus, the statement written by Edward Bulwer-Lytton “The pen is mightier than the sword” was so correct. Words hurt. Words are damaging. Words are life altering.

If one were to reflect upon their past, there is a chance, that a punishment from a parent may not be remembered, however, if a parent made a comment, that was hurtful, that comment is remembered into adulthood.
That is because, like glue, words stick to our souls and spirit. They anchor themselves upon our hearts, and it may take many years to release them.

Words also bring comfort. There has to be a time in your life, when something was said to you that you will always remember. When the statement was made to you, it sang upon your spirit and for that single moment, the world was yours. You still to this day, remember who it was, where it was and how wonderful you felt. It is the same with hurtful words. They stick and continue to hurt for many years.

One must be careful as to what comes out of the mouth. The mouth’s primary job is to chew and speak. Both of those actions are under the control of the mouth owner. When the mouth is in a chewing action, it is known; that once what is chewed has gone down, it’s done. The same with hurtful words. Once the words come out, it’s done. However, one must not forget the tongue. The use of the tongue is deadlier than the sword. That is why the Proverb states “the words of the reckless, pierce like swords.” Those words cut far deeper than any sword can ever reach.

A sword cannot reach the spirit. A sword cannot damage the soul. A sword cannot stain the heart. However, a reckless tongue reaches all of them and with direct impact. A reckless tongue hurts.

Yes, one can ask for forgiveness and can be forgiven. However, the receiver of the words, may forgive, however, they may never forget. At that moment, there was a pain to the heart. Quite simply, the words a reckless tongue used hurt and can’t be taken back.

Use wisdom when speaking words. Mr. Bulwar-Lytton was correct when stating that “the pen is mightier than the sword.” Imagine the words being spoken are being recorded or written and will live forever within the annals of someone’s soul. If the pen is mightier than the sword, isn’t it comforting to know that the words entering a soul will be for healing and not a lifetime of suffering?

Be wise with your tongue as Proverbs states. Be deliberate in your words for love, for healing, for joy and for peace. If one truly wants to live forever, all one needs to do, is be deliberate in not being reckless with your tongue and words.